Comments on CarolOates: Autism ~ I wouldn’t change it if I could

What a touching post. I understand what you're...

2011-11-11T19:44:59.187Z

What a touching post. I understand what you're trying to say and I don't think there's anything at all wrong with you wanting a cure for your son if you could give it to him.

My son has also been diagnosed with autism and I'm one of those parents who say they wouldn't change him if I could.

I am extraordinarily lucky. My son (8) is also extremely high-functioning and verbal. His long-term prognosis is good. But some of the things I love most about him would disappear if I had that magic wand. His incredible memory, his hunger for knowledge, his sense of humor and his innocent, matter-of-fact way of dealing with the world are so endearing, I can't imagine him any other way.

We have our struggles, of course. And if you were to ask me mid-meltdown if I'd change him you might get a different answer.

Thanks ladies. :-) I was talking to my brother abo...

2011-11-10T23:59:52.568Z

Thanks ladies. :-) I was talking to my brother about it. I feel for parents coming through the diagnosis process and trying to come to terms. I know I wish there had been people telling me it was okay to hate the autism, that it didn't mean I was doing my son a dis-service or being weak. Letting parents know there are others struggling can help as much as talking about achievements.

I'm so glad you have this outlet to express yo...

2011-11-10T16:58:03.723Z

I'm so glad you have this outlet to express yourself freely and reflect on life with your son.

It always sounds like you strive to give your son as many opportunities as possible, and that makes you an extraordinary parent. :)

Carol, your honesty continues to move and inspire ...

2011-11-08T16:08:05.103Z

Carol, your honesty continues to move and inspire me. This was beautifully written. No judgment here. Every parent should want those things for their children.

XO

Lisa